"We're expecting in 1-24 months" ~Ryan

So let's see..... since the last post we have turned in all of our paper work for the home study.  A HUGE relief!! It was such a good feeling to bring in the final stack of papers!

Also, this past Friday and Saturday, we had a pre-adopt, pre-foster parent training course.  I was excited for the class because I thought we were finally going to be learning things that pertained to our type of adoption (the other classes have focused on older children).  Unfortunately, this was not the case, again.  The majority of the information covered in this training was for people adopting older children (MN waiting children).  We had to take the course because in WI we have to be licensed for foster care.
It was a very difficult class to be in.  We saw videos of kids telling their stories about why they were put in foster care and the things they have experienced while there.  We also listened to a 911 call from a 7 year old girl who's step father was abusing her mother and baby sister.  It was heart breaking to say the least.  We talked about different forms of abuse and the lasting effects it has on the kids.  We also learned about the effects that different drugs and alcohol have on babies, which is something that we could possibly be faced with.  So while the majority of the information was not relevant to our situation, there were a few things presented for us to think about and consider as we move forward. 

Overall, it was a very hard and emotionally draining two days.  My heart broke for the children whose stories we heard.  But as Ryan helped me to see, we could possibly be "saving" a baby, who would have experienced these things if we were not adopting him/her.  As we talked about at the closing of each day, the information presented was making everyone really think about what a HUGE and life-changing decision we were all making. (We were the youngest couple in the class (about 8 couples), and the only ones doing a domestic infant adoption.)

The next steps: November 2nd we have our in-home visit.  Our social worker will come to our house to make sure that it is a safe environment for a baby, and then ask Ryan and I some questions individually.  Then on November 6th we have a car seat safety training course.  After these 2 things, we wait.  It will take 1-2 months for our social worker to write our report.  It will need to go through several different people in the office who make suggestions and revisions.

During this time we will be working on our profile.  We will make a (roughly) 3-5 page book with pictures and a Dear Birthmother letter.  We will make several copies of this for the agency.  When the agency is meeting with a Birthmother, they will call us and tell us her situation.  We will then decide if this is a situation that we are open to.  If not, they will not show that Birthmother our profile.  If so, they will take our profile, along with any other adoptive couples open to that situation, with to show the Birthmother.  She will choose 1 or 2 profiles that she would like to meet with or get more information on. 
Also, during this time, we will be working on the nursery :) We need to be prepared if by chance it all goes very quickly.  While it's not extremely likely, there is still a possibility, and we want to be prepared for that.  Plus it helps to pass the time, and feels like we are still working towards our dream :)

This week, while we still need the prayers (our Birthmother, baby, and Ryan and I), please also pray for all of the children in foster care.  There are so many heartbreaking stories.

Love,
Ryan and Christa