Not sure why I haven't written on here in so long, but it's probably for the better....
I don't really even know where to begin....
For 3 weeks in March, we had it all.....
Pregnant with twins and adopting a baby boy in June.... We were thrilled, nervous, but thrilled! :)
Then the first blow came... we lost the twins
Now, we're dealing with the second blow.... an adoption scam
Over the last 6+ months we have gotten extremely close to a "birth mother." I say that in quotes because we don't even know for certain that she was ever even pregnant.
We had a great trip to MO and met her and 2 of her 3 boys. Everything was going so well, we're not exactly sure how we ended up here.... with broken hearts....
She had suggested that her and her oldest son come here and we had a fun filled weekend all planned.
It never happened... we were strung along for several days, thinking that our son may be coming soon....
Here we sit, three weeks later, with only the answers we have pieced together.
We appear to have been victims of an adoption scam.
We are still trying to make sense of it all. We can't figure out why she would have done this... we gave her no money..... it makes us sick to think that someone could do all this purely for the thrill of putting us through HELL....
She met with and fooled the social worker as well....
No one seems to have any answers, which makes this so much harder...
It's hard to imagine that someone would not only do this, but involve their children in their sick schemes....
Trying now to figure out what we can do to prevent her from putting anyone else through this living HELL....
Where do we go from here?
Still trying to figure that out.....
Prayers needed....
Saturday, May 26, 2012
Monday, January 30, 2012
Baby Doyle... Coming soon!
We are so excited to announce that Baby Boy Doyle will be here in June!
We have continue the emails with the Birth Mother in Missouri, and finally talked with her on the phone for the first time last night!
I was so nervous right before we dialed, and told Ryan he would have to do much of the talking :)
But... It could not have gone more perfectly!! And Ryan barely got a word in, between Michelle and myself!
We talked for about 45 minutes and learned so much about her and her family. She has 3 boys: 11, 6, and 4. She has so much love for this baby, but knows that financially, she can't make it work.
She has an older brother who is adopted, and her mom has been telling her how worried she was throughout the process that his birth mom would change her mind.... Her Mom has told her to constantly reassure us that this is the decision she has made, and is comfortable with it. That has been so helpful for us!!
We are still in the process of researching all of the legal things that need to be done to complete this adoption, but we are so excited!!
It feels perfect!!
Thank you for all of your prayers! I think they have finally been answered!!
We have continue the emails with the Birth Mother in Missouri, and finally talked with her on the phone for the first time last night!
I was so nervous right before we dialed, and told Ryan he would have to do much of the talking :)
But... It could not have gone more perfectly!! And Ryan barely got a word in, between Michelle and myself!
We talked for about 45 minutes and learned so much about her and her family. She has 3 boys: 11, 6, and 4. She has so much love for this baby, but knows that financially, she can't make it work.
She has an older brother who is adopted, and her mom has been telling her how worried she was throughout the process that his birth mom would change her mind.... Her Mom has told her to constantly reassure us that this is the decision she has made, and is comfortable with it. That has been so helpful for us!!
We are still in the process of researching all of the legal things that need to be done to complete this adoption, but we are so excited!!
It feels perfect!!
Thank you for all of your prayers! I think they have finally been answered!!
Thursday, January 5, 2012
Wow it's been awhile!!
So it's been quite awhile since the last time I wrote anything.... pretty sure no one is still reading this, but I guess we will find out.....
We never thought that we would still be in this "waiting game," a year later (NOT a very fun game). Nevertheless, we are still here, currently doing paperwork to renew our home study. There have been a few situations come up with our agency, and by situations I mean, they call us to tell us of a Birth Mom situation and ask if we want them to take our profile to show her. Each time we say yes, and we sit on pins and needles waiting to hear if she wants to meet us. We have yet to meet with a Birth Mother. Thankfully, I have not taken any of the situations personally, things just keep seeming to come up that do not make us compatible.
A little over 3 months ago, our agency put on a seminar on Birth Mother outreach and what we can do to try to "be found" sooner. We were skeptical about going, as we thought this was something our agency should be doing. Regardless, we went to the class and were so thankful we did! We learned so much!!
Many of you have seen the video we made for You Tube. That was one of the suggestions. Here's the link if you want to see it Our Video .
Anyways, we made this video and made a page on Facebook. The very next day (or maybe even that same day) we received an email from a Birth Mother in Missouri who had seen our video. She is a single mother of 3 boys and is pregnant with her fourth. She has said she is "comfortable" financially currently, but knows she could not support another child. She works in the foster care system and knows what can happen when a mother takes on more that she can handle.
We have been emailing back and forth ever since and are planning on Skyping with her soon!
We are very hopeful but also trying to keep some guards up to protect ourselves. That's the hard part... At some point we are going to have to invest fully. Let Go and Let God, right?!? We are working on getting there. It's still early (she's due 7-7-12) but the more we talk, the more comfortable and hopeful we get!
Keep the prayers coming!
Holding on to HOPE!
We never thought that we would still be in this "waiting game," a year later (NOT a very fun game). Nevertheless, we are still here, currently doing paperwork to renew our home study. There have been a few situations come up with our agency, and by situations I mean, they call us to tell us of a Birth Mom situation and ask if we want them to take our profile to show her. Each time we say yes, and we sit on pins and needles waiting to hear if she wants to meet us. We have yet to meet with a Birth Mother. Thankfully, I have not taken any of the situations personally, things just keep seeming to come up that do not make us compatible.
A little over 3 months ago, our agency put on a seminar on Birth Mother outreach and what we can do to try to "be found" sooner. We were skeptical about going, as we thought this was something our agency should be doing. Regardless, we went to the class and were so thankful we did! We learned so much!!
Many of you have seen the video we made for You Tube. That was one of the suggestions. Here's the link if you want to see it Our Video .
Anyways, we made this video and made a page on Facebook. The very next day (or maybe even that same day) we received an email from a Birth Mother in Missouri who had seen our video. She is a single mother of 3 boys and is pregnant with her fourth. She has said she is "comfortable" financially currently, but knows she could not support another child. She works in the foster care system and knows what can happen when a mother takes on more that she can handle.
We have been emailing back and forth ever since and are planning on Skyping with her soon!
We are very hopeful but also trying to keep some guards up to protect ourselves. That's the hard part... At some point we are going to have to invest fully. Let Go and Let God, right?!? We are working on getting there. It's still early (she's due 7-7-12) but the more we talk, the more comfortable and hopeful we get!
Keep the prayers coming!
Holding on to HOPE!
Sunday, April 17, 2011
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Just in case....
A few people have asked, so I thought I would put it on here, just in case.....
If you know someone, or hear of someone, wanting to make an adoption plan for their baby, please give them the link to our profile on HOPE's website. I've posted the link in an earlier blog, but here it is again:
Ryan and Christa
Thanks for keeping us in mind for situations that come up!
If you know someone, or hear of someone, wanting to make an adoption plan for their baby, please give them the link to our profile on HOPE's website. I've posted the link in an earlier blog, but here it is again:
Ryan and Christa
Thanks for keeping us in mind for situations that come up!
Saturday, February 19, 2011
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